If your dog lunges, barks, whines, or fixates on every passing dog, person, or squirrelâyouâre not alone.
And contrary to what most people believe, reactivity isnât disobedience. Itâs a communication breakdown.
Victoria teaches that reactivity is a symptomânot the root problem. Itâs your dog saying, âI donât know how to handle this⊠and I donât trust you to handle it either.â
The solution isnât louder commands or more treats.
Itâs resetting the relationship.
đ§ What Reactivity Really Is
Reactivity shows up as:
- Barking or lunging on leash
- Whining at triggers (dogs, people, skateboards)
- Racing to the end of the leash out of excitement or fear
- Fixating intensely on whatâs ahead
This isnât âbadâ behavior. Itâs your dog feeling overwhelmed, confused, or unsupported.
Reactivity often stems from:
- đ« Lack of consistent leadership
- đ Past negative experiences
- đ Over-socialization or chaotic interactions
- đ§ A need to create space when feeling unsafe
- đ Inconsistent structure inside the home
When a dog feels like theyâre in charge of managing their environment, they become anxiousâand that anxiety becomes reactivity.
đȘą The Relationship-Based Approach
This isnât about dominance or obedience drills.
Victoria focuses on:
- Clarity & boundaries
- Calm guidance in stressful moments
- Fulfilling physical, mental, and emotional needs
- Limiting overstimulation and chaotic environments
When dogs have structure and trust in their human, they no longer feel like they need to overreact or take control.
Thatâs when reactivity begins to fade.
đĄ It Starts at HomeâNot on the Walk
If your dog is reactive on leash, the fix doesnât begin at the park. It begins in your living room.
Here’s why:
- Free-roaming, boundary-pushing dogs at home practice self-direction all day
- Then you ask for calm leadership only during the walkâand your dog doesnât buy it
- They havenât been shown that youâre in charge everywhere, so they donât trust your direction anywhere
The solution?
Start with thresholds. Crate time. Place work. Door boundaries.
Consistency builds clarity. Clarity builds trust.
đ¶ The Walk as a Trust Test
The walk is not just exerciseâitâs a test of leadership and connection.
If your dog is pulling, lunging, or scanning constantly, theyâre showing you they donât feel secure enough to follow.
Reset your walk by:
- Slowing everything down
- Waiting for calm before you exit the house
- Practicing neutrality at the door
- Walking with clear purposeânot rushed energy
- Focusing more on connection than distance
Itâs okay if your âwalkâ is just standing on the sidewalk practicing calm. That is progress.
đ Reset the Relationship
If your dog is reactive, itâs time for a full reset. That means:
- No more free roaming
- Every moment becomes a training moment
- Leadership is practiced in the home, yard, and on walks
- You control the environmentânot your dog
This isnât about over-controllingâitâs about providing relief through structure. Your dog wants to followâyou just have to become someone worth following.
đ§© Before You Expect Progress, Build the Foundation
Victoriaâs go-to checklist for calming reactivity:
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Fulfillment:
Physical: Long structured walks, play with rules
Mental: Training, scent work, calm engagement
Emotional: Leadership, predictability, presence
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Structure:
Set rules inside and out. Doors. Furniture. Food. Toys.
Structure gives dogs safety. Freedom comes after trust.
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Selective Socialization:
Not every dog needs to meet every other dog.
Overexposure leads to overstimulation.
Dog parks and daycare often teach bad habits and build reactivityânot confidence.
đŸ Itâs Okay If the Walk is Just a Warm-Up
Donât rush. If your walk turns into a 10-minute leash session at your driveway, thatâs fine. Youâre still reinforcing:
- Calm leash behavior
- Your leadership
- Your dogâs ability to regulate their emotions
And thatâs the long game.
đ Want to See the Process in Action?
Inside the FTH Online Pack, Victoria shows you exactly how to shift reactivity through relationship:
- đ eBooks on leadership, walk structure, emotional regulation
- đ„ Video demos showing real reactivity resets in motion
- đŹ Weekly Q&A to troubleshoot your dogâs specific challenges
- đŸ A supportive community of dog owners walking the same journey
All for just $10 your first month.
đ Click here to join and start rebuilding calm from the inside out.
đ Reactivity Is Not Who Your Dog Is
Itâs just how theyâve learned to cope with stress.
With structure, trust, and a clear leaderâyou can help them let go of that pressure.
You donât need a perfect dog.
You need a real connection.
And it starts with you. đŸ
1 Comment
This is so true! When I stop being consistent, it is surprising how fast my dog reverts to old behaviors. Thank you for this encouraging blog post and reminders of the importance of structure for our beloved pets.